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rvandenbosch

Registered: 03/10/04
Posts: 4,169
 #1 
Dear Thrivers,

20-years ago when I was first diagnosed with cancer, Bernie taught me to live in the moment and not worry about the past or the future.  I was a professional worrier and it was a hard prescription for healing for me to learn.  

I was so busy worrying about everything and forgot to live one precious moment at a time.  It took a long time for me to be at ease with the present moment.  I was not living for each day.  I found that my mind would wander and linger in the past or worry about what the future would bring.
I could not change the past and I could not control the future.

Saturday night, I went to my high school reunion.  We had a wonderful time talking about our time together in school and how we had all changed for the better! Our old insecurities are gone and we are mature and could care less what other people say about us. The guys weren't competing about who had the trophy wife, most expensive car, luxury home or most prestigious job.

For us gals, we weren't overly concerned about our appearance and there was no competition between the women to have the best outfit or look the youngest.  We wore casual clothes and our conversation was about the present and our concerns for our children, grandchildren, the economy...you name it.  What a nice change!

We had so much fun and laughed the night away without the need for alcohol and drugs.  It's nice to finally grow up!

Have a wonderful day and discover the wonders around you that you never noticed before because you are living in the past or busy worrying about tomorrow.

 
Give us this day our daily bread.--Matthew 6:11

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Ruth
mdlove

Registered: 03/13/04
Posts: 4,214
 #2 
just came back from a lecture on TM = transcendental meditation

do it twice a day for 20 minutes and it will prolong you life

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starion

Registered: 03/22/04
Posts: 192
 #3 
It is WONDERFUL to have the freedom to be yourself and to live each day as fully and well as we can. 

It sounds like you had a wonderful reunion, Ruth!  My brother sent me a barrage of texts recently, as a mutual friend passed away unexpectedly, 4 months after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.  Brother says, we need to learn to play.  I hope he takes it to heart.  I have been learning to live my chocolate ice cream ever since I & my kids were diagnosed with serious chronic health conditions over a decade ago.

Learning to live this way has been a major paradigm shift but indeed it has been a gift and I do my best to cherish each moment and each day.  Time, especially shared with friends and loved ones is truly a blessing. 

Starion
rvandenbosch

Registered: 03/10/04
Posts: 4,169
 #4 

YES!


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Ruth
starion

Registered: 03/22/04
Posts: 192
 #5 
It's ironic actually.  Recently, I was in a training session & we were talking about early retirement.  We started talking about what is work & what is retirement, which is early and what is not.  Then we talked about what we would want to do when & if we retired and people stopped and point to me and said, "You're doing what we want to do when we retire & you're doing what you want to do now that you're retired.  What would you want to do differently?  Aren't you already living your happy retirement?"  It is funny that so many have said this and it's largely true!  It is wonderful to love doing what we do, knowing we are helping others and working to make our community & world a better place, both concretely and abstractly!
 
It is so funny that many of my staff say that when & if they retire, they'll want to spend more time with me & my project & work.    I have incredible loyal and friendly staff that enjoy their work and do well!  We train students -- mentoring them and talking with them.  They are learning how to do community outreach and work with the public at health events.
mdlove

Registered: 03/13/04
Posts: 4,214
 #6 
you don't retire
you engage and disengage

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bernie siegel
advincharles

Registered: 05/16/12
Posts: 72
 #7 
You are right, you can only make your way if you are a motivated person and having guts to fight against problems comes in life otherwise you are just for nothing.

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